Thoughts For When You Feel Paralyzed

Many people are asking themselves what to do in response to the state of our world right now. That’s really good, we should be asking. Many of us are genuinely and deeply wanting to respond, but feeling a sense of overwhelm and despair, asking “what am I supposed to do? What can I do?” First of all, I want you to know that I feel paralyzed a little bit almost every day. I’ve decided it’s part of my creative process and I definitely know it’s part of choosing to engage in the world rather than turn away from it. I know that I stand up on Sunday with inspiring messages that probably make you think I never feel hopeless or paralyzed, but that’s completely untrue. In fact, some of my most powerful messages come from times when I have wrestled with a paralyzed or hopeless state. Since I like to get curious about any experience I’m having, study it, explore it, and let it stretch me, I’m trying to explore this experience of paralysis. So here are some things that are coming up for me around it. Maybe this will be helpful for you. I hope at least it offers a little support along the way.

1. Older and wiser people have told me that we are here for this moment in history because we are capable. So I remind myself that I am capable and we are capable.

2. I remind myself that there are a ton of really good people out there who feel like me and a lot of them are doing really good work. When I feel overly responsible- like somehow it is up to me and only me to solve alllll of the world’s problems (logical, I know), I remind myself of this.

3. I also remind myself that it IS time for me to be doing something, and maybe things I’ve not done before. The feeling of immense anxiety and sense of incredible urgency about the state of the world right now is really honest and it is trying to let me know that this is serious. So turn the question into a serious one rather than hopeless one. What can I do? Sit down with your creative, powerful, and energized self. Think big, get curious and excited about where this journey might take you and what big things you might be up to. When you talk yourself out of big ideas because you don’t think it will work, remind yourself this is a non-normal time and requires a non-normal response. Also the small things matter too, so don’t brush those aside. Think small and think bigger and seriously, do whatever your idea is. Just do it. Like Nike. Then help your friends get big ideas and do them too.

4. I force myself to stay with the tension. What often happens is that to escape the feeling of overwhelm and paralysis we just start avoiding everything. This is where complacency begins. So instead of fleeing from the uncomfortable tension of knowing there’s a lot of work to be done and I’m not quite sure where to start, I try to sit with that very feeling and not run from it. What’s it like just to sit with that “what can I do?” feeling. I don’t pitch a tent in it, but I don’t run from it either. I just let myself feel it for a little while. It won’t eat you alive if you don’t let it, I promise. Throw yourself a hopeless party and eat some cake, get playful with paralysis; like really ask yourself, what is this experience? Isn’t it interesting?! This is a tension that needs your consciousness. Get to know it and see what it has to teach you. Know that it connects you to a lot of people experiencing the same tension right now. Simply trying to get out of it will ensure that you just go back to your comfortable life. I’m not letting myself do that, and I’m sorry, but I can’t let you do that either.

5. I am learning to expand my container. The idea of “my container” is about what I’m able to hold, in a spiritual/emotional/psychological sense; what I’m able to include in my being. Expanding my container means, for me, the willingness to say I can hold all my own daily stresses and challenges, while also being big enough to hold the darkness of the world. I can almost physically feel myself stretch when I do this. It is definitely a real energetic experience. It means that I have to embrace the shadow fully and not be afraid of what I find. It also means I have to be really okay about not feeling good all the time.  A mantra I have is, “I am strong enough and resilient enough to hold this.” Sometimes, it sounds more like, “Okay world, let’s do this thing.” So, now is the time to fully engage in a spirituality that has you wrestling with uncertainty, fear, and resiliency. There are lineages that have embraced these experiences and right now, this needs to be our spiritual practice and those are your key search words. I will tell you that this work is not easy, but it is incredibly freeing, so it is not without rich harvest. Andrew Harvey, Pema Chodron, Jean Shinoda Bolen, and Brene Brown are all good names for this.

6. If you are feeling like you are of an age where you were fighting against a lot of the same kind of stuff in the 60’s that we’re facing right now and you know your action is not going to look the same, but you want to do something- as a young person, I have an idea for you. Become a mentor, encourager, supporter of young people who are acting and needing inspiration, direction, love, and tea and cookies from someone who wants to give them some mama or papa bear love. Gather your friends and gather some young people and become their support system for their acts of catalyzing change.

7. I listen to that still, small voice within. I know my soul, my heart chakra, the Divine Mind, however you want to name it, is working with me. Sometimes we have to be patient and keep listening. Sometimes it takes a little while to hear the direction and get clarity and usually we get it from receptivity as opposed to grasping. So use your meditation time to be fiercely receptive and to trust that your soul is carrying the message you need to hear. Pause, listen, and be willing to try out what it says even if it seems totally illogical or you feel like you aren’t actually capable of doing what it is asking. You are. Just be ready to leap.

 

“Changing the world doesn’t happen all at once. It isn’t a big bang. It’s an evolution, the sum of a billion tiny sparks. And some of those sparks will have to come from you.” -Katie Couric

The Dark and the Light

We are attending to troubling times in our world today. Since stepping into my role at ICSG, many difficult and tragic events have taken place in our community and in our world, the most recent being a number of historically destructive natural disasters. As I reflect upon the devastation in Southeast Asia, Texas, Oregon, Montana, Florida, the Caribbean Islands, and Mexico, I find myself often without words. I know many of us have been personally affected by at least one of these events and that the challenges, losses, and fears continue to play out.

As I’ve been looking for my own guidance during this time, I began to think about the role darkness has played in my own life. I reflected on the many times that I have experienced darkness, how I fight with it, how it forces me to stay anyway, and what I gain from the process of composting and stumbling back into the light. Then I happened upon this beautiful writing by one of the spiritual teachers I follow, Tirzah Firestone. She began by referring to the solar eclipse that happened last month, starting with a quote from a friend of hers:

The most unforgettable moment was—after about two minutes of experiencing the totality—when the light of the sun, like a sparkling facet of a diamond, began peeking out from the edge…It symbolized for me that in the deepest throes of darkness the light is born.”

In response to her friend’s message, Tirzah shared the following:

“His sentiment comes right out of Kabbalah: the notion that light is born out of chaos and darkness. The 13th century Zohar says: For there is no light except that which issues from darkness… and there is no good except that which issues from evil. There is a lot of darkness in the world right now: fear, insecurity, hopelessness. How do we go about bringing light out of so much dark? I believe the Zohar is telling us that spiritual light comes not from avoiding, but from facing into the darkness. That true goodness comes not from untested innocence but from facing and wrestling with our darkest parts.”

I wanted to share Tirzah’s sentiment with you in part because we will have a guest speaker, Lucinda Kurtz, speaking about the Kabbalah at our service on Oct. 1st, followed by a workshop on the topic. I thought the synchronicity was poignant. I also appreciated Tirzah’s encouragement to face into the darkness. I do believe this is what is being asked of us during this time. We must face this darkness, wrestle with it, even if it means our worldview is tossed on its head. We are seeing how the decades of mistreatment of our Mother Earth is leading to pain and loss on a massive scale. We are acknowledging the suffering of many who have lost loved ones, their homes, their livelihoods, and their neighborhoods. We face all of this, we call on our resiliency to make it through this time, we show our aid to those who are suffering in any way we can, and we trust that the light will greet us on the other side. We commit to being co-creators of that light.

I encourage you to join in meditation and peaceful prayer for our world during the  24 hour Peace Generator, this weekend, Sept. 15th at 6pm- Sept 16th at 6pm, drop in any time. May all of those personally affected by tragedy today be safe, protected, and supported during this difficult time.

With Love,

Lauren

Response to Charlottesville

Hello Interfaith Family,

It has felt important to me to reach out during this difficult moment in our history. Having been out of town and mostly out of touch over the weekend, I am still wrapping my mind around a response to what occurred in Charlottesville, VA. Since hearing the news, I have felt many things: grief, anger, and pain, along with a fierce uprising of mother bear energy and a sense of hope as voices of peace rise above hate.

I was lucky enough to be in town for the vigil held at the Diag on Sunday night, which was truly a powerful event. Incredibly impactful words were shared, with an emphasis on waking up and standing up. We were reminded of, on the one hand, the unbearable costs of being silent in the face of such events and, on the other hand, the amazing power of coming together in peace.  I felt truly honored to stand with other members of diverse faith traditions and the Interfaith Council for Peace and Justice in denouncing the hate and calling on all of our strength to stand against it. It truly seems that even as the shadow continues to reveal itself in louder ways in our world, the light is pouring in with all its strength. People all over the nation (and around the world) are coming together to do amazing work, work that will no doubt change our world for the better.

For the past month or so I have been in conversation with the Washtenaw County Democratic Party Black Caucus about leading an event at the ICSG called Uncomfortable Conversations. It is an opportunity for people of all races to talk openly, even if uncomfortably, about race and issues of race. Having attended one of these events a few months ago, I was struck by how important it was and it now feels to be even more urgent. I look forward to bringing this work to the center; keep your eyes out for finalized details soon.

By way of recognizing that so many people around the country have spoken and written such valuable words in the last few days, I thought I’d share a few passages from wise souls that I have encountered that have given me strength, hope, and awakening.

From a black female student who spoke at the vigil (unfortunately I have been unable to find her name):

“Now I need you all to wake up. This is America. This is the America that black and brown people have told you about. It’s the America that black and brown people have fought for…America is flawed, it is violent, it is divided, it is unfair and unjust, it is racist, it is sexist, it is homophobic, classist, and so much more. But you know what, this is also America, all of us here, we are America. And this America is strong, determined, passionate, tolerant, black, it is brown, it is Spanish-speaking, it is queer, it is woman, and it is youth. This America is loving and it is forgiving and because of all of that, we are so much bigger and stronger than the fear that causes some of America to hurt instead of heal.”

From Marianne Williamson’s talk given in Charlottesville on 8/13:

“Love gives us power and love gives us two categories of power. Our power to say no and our power to say yes… for those of us dedicated to the auspices of love, we know love sometimes says NO…We have zero tolerance for violence directed at any human being and ladies and gentleman, this is the time for all of us in America to remember and to stand and to own the courage, the moral courage it takes to also say no to violence when it is institutionalized and when it appears in our midst. This is not a time for moral relativism…this is the time to take a stand and to say no.”

From Pastor John Pavlovitz:

“We are not with you, torch-bearers, in Charlottesville or anywhere. We do not consent to this. In fact, we stand against you, alongside the very beautiful diversity that you fear. We stand with people of every color and of all faiths, people of every orientation, nationality, and native tongue. We are not going to have this…your racism and your terrorism will not win the day.”

In honor of all of these wise words and all of the ways in which we will continue to stand for love, I’ll close with a message of prayer. May we find the strength to release any fears and reticence to stand against what we know is wrong. May each of us, in ways both large and small, work every day to stand fiercely in our love for our planet and our fellow beings everywhere. May we use our privilege to pave the way for others, to make way for the silenced to be heard. May we, each day, be reminded that today is the day to stand for light, love, and liberation.

With Ferocious Mother Bear Love,

Lauren

 

Addressing Panic Attacks Using the Wisdom of Ayurveda

by Rev. Lauren Tatarsky, Senior Minister

tree trunk with butterflyI’ve been noticing among friends, family, and clients that experiences of panic are on the rise. Many people who have experienced anxiety in some form or another but never experienced panic attacks before are having them now. When patterns start to arise in the circles that make up my world, it strikes me to reflect a bit on the larger picture.

It is my experience that we each have our own complex emotional and energetic bodies, but we are also super sensitive beings and pick up energies from the world around us. And we are more inundated with painful and traumatic events from all over the world than we ever have been before. So first of all, I’d like to tell you that you are not alone in your panic and it may not be your panic alone that you are experiencing. There are likely real things happening in your life that are causing you to experience anxiety (another conversation for another time), but the fact that you are experiencing it as panic now may have a lot to do with the energetic environment of our world. Panic is a pretty accurate description of the state of our world at this moment in time.

Your panic makes sense to me. Your anxiety also makes sense. So this is not about something being wrong with you for feeling these things and you should know that truly, you are not alone. This is about supporting yourself in getting through times of panic; surviving them so that you can get back to connecting with yourself as a whole person and seeing more clearly what’s inside you and in front of you.

What not to do when you’re in a panic state

First off, if you self medicate with marijuana for anxiety, know that there is a lot of investigation happening around marijuana-induced panic attacks. Note that for yourself and look into it. Continue reading Addressing Panic Attacks Using the Wisdom of Ayurveda

Follow Up Thoughts on Liberation

by Rev. Lauren Tatarsky, Senior Minister

Hello Interfaith Family,

This is a follow up on our lively talk about liberation this past Sunday in response to a request for more information about Lilith.

I have an oracle deck that I love called Goddesses: Knowledge Cards. It shares stories of Goddesses from Greek, Roman, Celtic, Native American, Egyptian, Middle Eastern, and Scandinavian mythologies.

Lilith, in Goddesses, Knowledge Cards by Michael BabcockHere’s what it has to say about Lilith:

“Lilith is a Middle Eastern goddess of abundance, fertility, and fecundity, the giver of agriculture to humans. The first woman created and the first wife of Adam, she refused to be subordinate to Adam in any way.

“Lilith is associated with the owl, a figure of darkness and deep wisdom, for she is also a goddess of death and transformation. She is sometimes represented as a demonic figure, for her dark wisdom can her sexual energy can be very threatening. She is known to appear as a frightening figure in dreams.

“Lilith is associated with the lotus, and the symbolism of that flower tells us much about her. The lotus, an exquisite flower that grows out of dark, rank, decaying earth, represents spiritual unfolding and the blossoming of the heart of wisdom. Like the lotus, Lilith challenges us to look upon our dark side and incorporate it into our wholeness so that our great beauty can blossom forth.”

~Michael Babcock

As I mentioned, the Wikipedia information about Lilith calls her a “dangerous demon of the night” who was “sexually wanton” and thankfully banished from Eden.

But the information from more spiritual and perhaps less culturally influenced perspectives, like the one above, suggests to me that her power was only threatening in that it was a liberating force, unafraid of the darkness, and challenging to the status quo.

There are many stories like Lilith, of indigenous women, black women, and members of marginalized groups far and wide who have been demonized or forgotten in our cultural mythological and religious paradigm. There is a book, for instance, called Passionate Enlightenment by Miranda Shaw that brings to light stories of female Tantric Buddhist teachers who were powerful spiritual teachers and equally transformational in their approach. Bringing their voices back is, to me, a powerful energetic intervention in this important time.

As a side note, anyone remember the Lilith Fair? This was a great effort of female musicians to increase the recognition and power of women in music. Very aptly named.

And I wanted to leave you with one final quote, which has stuck with me after our time together on Sunday.

“Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it.”

~Helen Keller

If you weren’t here Sunday, you can click here for my talk, entitled Liberation, Inside and Out.

Much Love and Many Blessings,

Lauren

Celebrations and New Beginnings ~ Welcoming Senior Minister Lauren Tatarsky this Sunday

In a historic passing of the baton, the Interfaith Center for Spiritual Growth will install Lauren Tatarsky as our new senior minister during this Sunday’s celebration service at 10:45 a.m.  Friends and family, old and new, are invited to meet Lauren and celebrate with us on this joyous occasion! Lauren will receive her ordination as an Interfaith Minister during the installation, and we will carry the festivities into a potluck lunch following the service.

Lauren was very warmly received by our community in March, when she hosted a Saturday workshop entitled, “Sharing Spiritual Experience: Connecting to Divinity Inside and Out,” followed by a Sunday talk, “Waking Up to Life: The Journey Toward Inner Knowing and Our Divine Purpose.” At our March Quarterly Conversation in Community, we announced the overwhelming decision by our membership to select Lauren as our new senior minister. In addition to the community vote, Lauren was the ministerial team’s unanimous preference to succeed Dave. On hearing the vote, founding minister Dave Bell  expressed his joy with tears of gratitude. “I’m very grateful for the hard work of the Search Committee and absolutely delighted with the choice of the congregation. I couldn’t be any happier about turning over the reins to Lauren.”

Lauren, 29, moved to Ann Arbor last summer from Denver and began attending Sunday services at the Center upon her arrival. She holds a Masters degree in Spiritual Guidance from The Institute of Transpersonal Psychology and a B.A. in Peace and Conflict Resolution from American University (Summa Cum Laude). Her post-graduate education experience focused on interfaith and interspiritual studies, with an emphasis on spiritual psychology and what it means to engage in a life of spiritual growth. She was raised Reform Jewish and spent time living at an ashram where she received training in yoga, meditation, Hinduism, Buddhism and Ayurveda.

Lauren describes herself as a Spiritual Eclectic, engaging in diverse spiritual practices that include contemplative meditation, visualization, nature walks, dream analysis, free form dance, and yoga. As a hatha yoga teacher, she values the mind-body-spirit connection and enjoys helping others experience the emotional and energetic aspects of their humanity as portals to their deeper selves as well as their connection with the Divine, Mother Nature, Spirit, the Universe, God, Goddess, True Self.

Prior to committing herself to spiritual work, Lauren spent many years as an activist in low-income communities working on issues of poverty, race, environmental justice, and healthy food access. She has traveled to 20 countries, mostly in the developing world, with numerous agencies and non-profits working for human rights and environmental justice. Most recently, she worked with inner-city youth in Denver, CO, promoting their empowerment and access to opportunities. Lauren is a lesbian and a LGBTQ advocate.

The next few weeks will be full of ways to honor this transition (including Dave’s retirement party on the 17th!). We hope to see you all in the coming weeks. Here are a few more things to add to your calendar for this time.

An Invitation ~ Letters to Lauren June 4th

In an effort to connect with each of us and get to know us better, Lauren will be collecting personal letters this Sunday (June 4) from anyone who would like to write her. It is not a requirement, only an invitation! Feel free to bring your letter with you on the 4th, or use the paper and pens we provide during the potluck after the service.

These letters are confidential (Lauren will be the only one reading them) and the topic is wide open! What would you like your new minister to know?

Ideas include: What’s going on in your life right now? What do you want Lauren to know about you as a person? Tell her about your spirituality? What does the Center mean to you? What does Lauren need to know about ICSG? What is your vision for our future?

All Aboard for Dave’s Retirement Party, Saturday, June 17th

We’re having a Retirement Gala on Saturday, June 17, from 6-8pm to honor our beloved founder and fearless spiritual leader, Dave Bell. We will celebrate Dave’s nearly 20 years of service to the Center, with light refreshments and a short program at 7pm. As anyone who was at Dave’s last Sunday talk on May 28 knows, we will have some great fun.  If you have not had an opportunity to share your good wishes and gratitude with Dave and Judy, now is the time!

Please note: Dave has let us know that in lieu of gifts, donations to the ICSG building fund in his honor will be happily accepted. For more information contact Sally @734-646-1349.

June 25th “Eat and Greet” with Lauren

Lauren invites everyone to a second June potluck after the June 25th service, to get to know her better in both formal and informal ways. She is planning  for 2 hours, 12:30-2:30. Friends old and new, please be sure to join us for this special opportunity! 

New Challenges, New Beginnings

by Senior Minister David T. Bell

A snapshot of founding minister Dave Bell, who attended the New Seminary in New York and founded the Interfaith Center for Spiritual Growth in Ann Arbor, MI.
David T. Bell

It is amazing to realize another year is about to unfold. There are quite a number of things that we would change about the year of 2016. Perhaps we should have enlarged the flash paper for the Burning Bowl service. 🙂 But seriously, we know that even as we feel resistance to what is occurring in the world, our true mission is to be the bringers of light. As bringers of light, it does not serve us to grumble and complain, to shake our heads in disbelief, or to express anger and frustration.

Every being, including those whom we might see as misguided or even evil, are expressions of divinity. As such, we cannot spend our time finding fault or criticizing them. The difficult task is to hold them in light, while finding ways to ensure that harm does not befall those who may be the subject of prejudice, if not out right hatred.

This will not be easy. Whatever actions we choose to take, anger should be left behind. As Jeshua said at our Christmas morning service, anger is never justified. He specifically said that his actions in driving the money changers from the Temple were not a result of anger.

There is no way that I or anyone can anticipate what situations will arise in the next year, or the next four years. What can be said, emphatically, is that guidance is available.

When faced with the opportunity to take some action, always pause a moment and ask for guidance.

Jeshua, the Holy Spirit, or your guardian angels will absolutely respond. Pausing a moment before acting is also a wonderful way to allow momentary anger to dissipate. So let us remember that we are the Bringers of Light as we ring in the New Year.

Ministerial Search Observations

The Ministerial Search Committee has been doing yeoman duty in attracting our next spiritual leader. They have established a working protocol that has served them well and they are sticking to it. I am optimistic that we will have a difficult choice to make amongst the excellent candidates. We will see how it unfolds.

Judy and I are heading for Florida toward the end of January. We are leaving a few days early so that we can scout out a new place to hang out. Our beloved Anna Maria Island has become too crowded and way too expensive. We still plan to be snow birds after I retire, but not Florida residents. I will be flying home for the month of March and we will both return to Michigan again in mid-April.

Blessings to all,

Dave

Opening our Minds & Hearts to the LGBTQ Community

by Rev. Annie Kopko, Associate Minister
Snapshot of Associate Minister Annie Kopko of the Interfaith Center in Ann Arbor.
Associate Minister Annie Kopko

We want to be a community that will “Welcome the strange, not just the stranger.”

The ministers at our beloved Center have been discussing this ever since Rev. Delyth and I attended a workshop last September. This workshop was organized to help faith communities come together and learn how we can become more inclusive and welcoming of LGBTQ individuals.

LGBTQIA = LESBIAN, BI-SEXUAL, GAY, TRANSGENDER, INTERSEX, OR ASEXUAL

As a follow-up to what we learned at the September workshop, our Center will welcome Rev. Dr. Julie Nemecek to speak at the Sunday service on January 15.  Reverend Julie is both an ordained Baptist minister and one of Michigan’s leading voices on transgender issues. She has worked with many churches on becoming an open and affirming church (inclusive of LGBTQIA people).  Continue reading Opening our Minds & Hearts to the LGBTQ Community

This is the Time

Here is challenge as well as some words of encouragement for everyone in the turbulence following the presidential election. May the challenges facing us all serve our collective awakening.

There are three parts to this post:

1) A video of the Sunday service with guest speaker Rev. Holly Makimaa.

2) A copy of the text Rev. Holly quoted at the end of her talk, “Now is Your Time” by L’Erin Alta.

3) A spiritual reading given by member Carol Bardenstein, “We Were Made for These Times” by Dr.  Clarissa Pinkola Estes:

Sunday Service with Interfaith Minister Holly Makimaa

“Now is Your Time,” by L’Erin Alta

If you ever felt called to be a healer, a teacher, a salve for the people, now is your time to come forward.

If you are a word weaver, or a light worker, or a lender of ears, now is your time to come forward.

If you have been hiding medicine in your pockets, behind your eyes, beneath your tongue, waiting for the ‘right’ time to share it, now is your time to come forward. Continue reading This is the Time

Embodying Higher Consciousness in Turbulent Times

post-election-spirituality resourcesHow do people on a conscious spiritual path embrace our spiritual power in a time of great fear and divisiveness?

What is the middle way, between falling victim to fear on the one hand, and spiritual bypassing on the other?

Here are two perspectives from wise American teachers:

  1.  Marianne Williamson, author of Return to Love and Healing the Soul of America  (1998), speaks on wise engagement as citizens in a democracy, from the point of view of A Course in Miracles, here. This talk includes a challenge for New Thought people to take a hard look at the temptation to avoid difficult topics by judging them as “negative.” She says now is an opportunity for “girls to become women and boys to become men” in our spiritual lives. (video)
  2.  Tara Brach, spiritual director at the Insight Meditation Center in Washington, DC, suggests how we can “Play a Greater Part,” in a post-retreat talk here. (audio)

Continue reading Embodying Higher Consciousness in Turbulent Times